New scientific analysis provides insights for women seeking Mr. Right. Works for OK Cupid, eHarmony, Zoosk, Tindr, Christian Mingle and Plenty of Fish, too.

I’ve seen a lot of women’s dating profiles over the past five years. Thousands of them, literally. And I’ve had plenty of conversations with other online daters, men and women alike, as I have sought to better understand this fascinating new (well, relatively new) mode of social interaction.

In the process I have noted a broad range of patterns and tendencies and have come to a highly scientific understanding of what works. Ladies, follow these simple steps and you’ll be reaping the rewards of your successful new dating profile in no time at all.

1: Always – always always ALWAYS – use the word adventure. You can use it two or three times if you like, or even more – when it comes to adventure there’s no such thing as too much. Roughly 90% of women’s profiles stress that they’re seeking adventure, and for good reason. No man wants a boring woman, and nothing demonstrates that you’re exciting and compelling as effectively as repeatedly mentioning how adventurous you are.

It doesn’t matter what you mean by the term, either. Whether your idea of adventure is hunting kodiaks with brass knucks or taking the scenic route to Whole Foods, the details are irrelevant.

2: Make sure to talk about how much you like travel. Research demonstrates that “travel” is used only slightly less often than “adventure,” and again, the reason is simple: there’s no place men would rather be than someplace else. By the time he’s finished with your profile, the reader should be wondering why you even have a place here in town. Surely you can crash on a friend’s couch a couple nights a year, right?

If you actually have traveled, be sure your profile includes at least one shot from every place you have ever visited. If you haven’t traveled, try misdirection: talk about how you love to travel. Not that you have traveled – eventually all online dating lies will catch up to you. In this case, include a couple of scenic photos of places from other parts of the country or the world with no comment. Mr. Right will assume you’ve been there and that you took the picture, even if it’s one you swiped off of freedigitalphotos.net.

3: One of your profile pictures – preferably your main photo – should be a car selfie. No man wants a woman who can’t drive him home when he’s liquored up. (77% of all women’s profiles include a driver’s-side selfie.)

4: If you have children, write that they are amazing. “Incredible” works, too, as does “awesome.” If your children are just like everyone else’s, though, you might have to expend a little extra effort selling it. Try this: “I feel blessed to know them.”

5: When it comes to style, be all things to all men. You do this by saying that you’re comfortable in old jeans but you also clean up really well. Boots and heels. Hanging in sweats on the sofa or getting all girlie for a night on the town. You get the idea.

6: How often you do yoga a week? Tell him, and add a session or two just to be safe. Guys like flexible women. If possible, include a picture of yourself doing Tree or Standing Bow Pulling Pose somewhere completely random, like a golf course.

7: You love your career. It’s rewarding/fulfilling/exciting.

8: Include picture of your pets. If you have a dog, include a photo of the two of you at the top of a mountain you just hiked.

9: Mention that you’re trying to take advantage of all that [insert name of your city here] has to offer.

10: Are you too needy or not needy enough? Guys want to know this up front. Decide before you write the first word whether you don’t need a man at all or whether you plan on spending every remaining moment of your life stuck to him like a remora. Examples of the former include statements asserting that you’re just fine with your life, you love who you are, you’re whole, you’re complete, you’re ecstatic with how things are, you don’t feel like your life requires a man in it, but, you know, you’d be open to something maybe if you found someone really special. That didn’t require any effort, you know. For the latter, you’re looking for commitment. You’re looking for that special someone you can totally, pathologically immerse yourself in, indulging every insecurity you ever had. Perhaps beginning as early as the first date. (Try to avoid terms like “smother” and “restraining order” – for some men these are red flags.)

Finally, a couple more quick photo ideas:

• Include all of your best photos. Then, towards the end, drop in one that makes you look like you just got back from laying siege to Helm’s Deep.
• Either include the hall or bathroom mirror selfie. These sorts of shots demonstrate your commitment to putting your best foot forward.

These are just a few ideas to get you started, and there are any number of other strategies you can employ. The best way to do this is to surf the profiles of other women and imitate them. To make it easy, go ahead and do a simple cut-and-paste. This highlights what you think other women think men are looking for and it saves guys the trouble of having to sort out any nuances or subtleties that make you seem special. After all, men are only after one thing and they never look at anything other than the pictures, right?

Happy hunting, ladies, and let me know how it goes.

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