After 20 yearsI don’t have itin me anymoreto not love youmore than my lifemore than mankindmore than any lifebut yours. You have saved meso many timesfrom myselfI’m pretty sureyou hold the mortgageon […]
To Michele on our 20th anniversary
A letter to my nieces, November 2016
By Amber Healy In the early afternoon of Election Day 2016, I traded messages with a good friend, heart swelling with hope. “To think … maybe, just maybe, the kiddos we love […]
A contrarian’s disheartened view of loyalty
As I age, I increasingly ponder loyalty. Most of us, I suspect, have an understanding of it. Perhaps it’s a feeling that we’d crawl through burning oil and run across broken glass […]
What do women not want from men?
Often, the evidence suggests, sex in long-term relationships. What most people know about Sigmund Freud could fit on the head of a penis. But many are familiar with his late-life lament: “What […]
Time to kiss off online dating: a long-overdue farewell to Match.com
Recently I was e-mailed, via Match.com, by an attractive woman (to the extent that profile pictures can be trusted, anyway) named Kathleen. I love that name, and her profile made her sound […]
Nota Bene #112: GOOOLLLLLLLL
“Freedom of any kind is the worst for creativity.” Who said it?
The advantages of unfaithfulness (don't try this at home!)
Unfaithfulness may actually be an effective mechanism for transitioning from one relationship to another.
ArtSunday: "With love, there are no rules"
What is the nature of love, and how can it transform our lives? Writers have tackled that question for centuries, but Paulo Coelho makes a worthy contribution to that tradition in his […]
Nota Bene #102: Dancing Limbaughs
“What they really want to see is, they want you to chop your fucking arm off, hold up your arm, wave it around spewing blood, and believe me, if you did that, […]
Andre Agassi: What a rich man's discontent can teach us all about living an authentic life
They say money can’t buy happiness. The same also goes for celebrity, and even the status that accompanies being among the best in the world at your profession. We’ve had ample demonstration […]
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